Love and Phone Sex, Monogamy, Cheating, and Devotion

Hi bois and gurls,

I am reviving this fun site as a place to share topics of interest to the phone sex community.  Hopefully articles here will interest both phone sex callers and phone sex operators.  I would still like to share articles here from other authors, too.  So if you have an interesting take on any phone sex topic, please consider sharing your perspective in an article of 500 – 700 words.

For today’s post, I intend to very briefly touch on three topics related to love and phone sex.  All views shared are my personal take on these things.  Different phone sex operators (PSO’s) may feel differently.  If you would like to see any one of these concepts more fleshed out in a future post, please let me know that in the comment area.

 

Loving phone sex calls

Phone sex and men in relationships:

 

Phone sex is a safe way to connect with another human being to share a fun fantasy.  It is healthier than looking at porn alone.  You cannot catch a disease.  You will not be arrested and on the evening news.  You are not exploiting a vulnerable woman as might be the case with prostitution.  You are helping to support the entrepreneurial life of your PSO.  You might learn something new.  And you might develop a caring bond with someone who can offer you a safe place to share your secrets.  But you are not cheating on your spouse or girlfriend.  Not in my eyes.

I am a FemDom specialist.  I am not in competition with the woman you love.  Callers come to me for very specific needs when their spouse or partner does not share their interests.  Expecting your partner to learn your kinks and become a FemDom Goddess for you when that is not her thing is like expecting your partner to learn how to clean your teeth and cut your hair because you would feel like you were cheating if you went to a dental hygienist or a hairstylist.  You see specialist all the time for all kinds of personal services and it is not cheating.  I am just like an accountant or a hairstylist or a therapist.  I am a professional who offers a specialized service.  We are never going to meet.  I have no interest in being your girlfriend.  You are not cheating with me.  You are just hiring a professional to take care of a specific need.  Perfectly safe.  Perfectly healthy.

 

Sharing a loving phone sex call

Phone sex connections between callers and operators:

 

I often develop close and caring connections with my phone sex callers.  Our connections are real and meaningful.  But they are also occurring within the confines of some pretty clear boundaries.  I have had callers tell me they love me and I am perfectly comfortable with that.  (Not all Mistresses feel the same, so you should always respect the comfort zone of your phone sex partner.)  I do not believe in Hallmark fairy tale Disney love, I am not that kind of romantic.  But I do believe in a Holy (non-religious) connection between all living things and I believe sometimes that connection shines brighter than others.  I may on occasion reply that I love my caller, too, if I feel certain he will not misinterpret my platonic (often nurturing) kind of love.

I am not possessive, so I have no problem with my callers also trying out other PSO’s.  Most often, my callers prefer to call only me, but they would not be in trouble if they explore their options and seek a little variety.

 

Phone sex is healthy.

Loving phone sex role play:

 

Some callers want to explore scenes where love is a factor.  All different kinds of love from controlling and possessive love to nurturing maternal love to cuckolding and alternative lifestyle kinds of love.  I always enjoy role play scenes where love is at play, but it is imperative before the scene that we agree on what is real and what is fantasy.  This cannot be assumed, it must be made clear.  I really enjoy playing with emotion when I know there is no confusion and no chance that your feelings would get hurt.  You are paying me for a fantasy experience and if you want to feel vulnerable and emotionally open, role play scenes involving love are a great way to explore your submissive side.  Don’t be afraid to talk to me about your desire for loving scenes.

 

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Finally, a note about safety…

 

If you ever feel like you might be getting TOO into our scenes or you might be losing touch with reality, please tell me that right away.  I am not a therapist and would never pretend to offer therapeutic guidance.  But I can be a supportive presence with very firm boundaries to offer you a sexual outlet while you seek the right mental health professional for your emotional healing.

 

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If you would like to explore these topics in depth, please give me a call!  I can be reached at 1-85-JOY-85-HOPE which is 1 (855) 698-5467.

I look forward to playing with you soon!

Mistress June

 

 

How I became a phone sex Mommy – from Miss Emma

Mommy phone sex It started small, as babies do, and entirely by accident, also often the case with babies. Occasionally a caller would want to call me “mommy” and cuddle and nurse, and I found that while this makes a lot of phone sex ladies go a little cross-eyed, it didn’t bother me at all. I just never found the “creepy factor” in it–quite the opposite; I found my adult babies and little boys and sissy girls simply had deep needs for affection, love, and nurture that aren’t often accepted in our culture. I enjoy meeting those needs! And if those needs and their fulfillment gets a bit (or a lot) eroticized from time to time, well, why not? We’re all adults here, with adult needs alongside our regressed infantile needs.

teddybearThen along came a new caller (you know who you are) who is just a riot! She throws temper tantrums, gets diaper changes and occasional spankings, loves baby wipes, lotion, and soft cool powder, and usually ends up settling down to nurse with me in our rocking chair. What a total fantasy immersion–and one that I know how to do well, having already been a very happy mom once up a time!

Mistress June said, “Miss Emma, you have to do ABDL phone sex.” And so, after figuring out that Mistress June didn’t simply have her ABC’s out of order, Mommy Emma came into being. Mommy Emma adores adult babies and toddlers, and little bitty toddler sissies. I made my mommy phone sex website, www.phonesexabdl.com, and I’m looking forward to doing some very fun stuff with it. Custom audio bedtime stories; maybe a daycare subscription service!

Because age play and mom phone sex aren’t allowed on Niteflirt, I’ve branched out with my own toll-free number for my adult baby and diaper lover callers: 1-888-249-2374. So check it out, and if you want some mommy time, call me! I’d love to hear from you :)

Mommy Emma

 

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The economics of phone sex – how the business works

There is a myth that phone sex is easy money and that anyone can get rich doing it.

I’m writing this post to dispel rumors and give new phone sex operators (PSOs) a clearer picture of the industry and also to educate callers on their options.  To share what happens to each dollar spent on phone sex.  I genuinely love the phone sex industry and everything I share here is intended to deepen your enjoyment of my favorite pastime whether you are a caller or a PSO.

Phone sex is a fun business!  But it IS a business.  With expenses and financial concerns like any other business.

getyourkinkonI have wanted to write this blog for a long time, but I was spurred to do it now because a recent caller told me he imagined I make six figures and that I earn far more per hour than he does.  Ha!  lol  I am still laughing at that.

This industry can reward a woman well if she has certain gifts and abilities, but it is not likely to make a PSO rich.  Here are some of the details…

There are three main business models in this industry.  Many PSO’s work one model or another, some work combinations of these options.  All of these options have their benefits.

Dispatch phone sex agencies

Agencies advertise and develop loyal callers based on fetish niches or price points.  The better ones heavily screen applicants and offer their PSOs training and other support.  They have centralized billing and offer callers a more consistent experience when calling a range of PSOs.  They offer PSOs a more reliable stream of calls and income.  Dispatch agencies typically pay the PSO about 25% to 35% of what a customer pays per minute, sometimes more.

Bad dispatch companies provide little support for their PSOs, offer inconsistent experiences for their callers, and pay their operators as little as 10% of what the caller is spending on his call.  Do your research when choosing a dispatch company!  The good ones are great and the bad ones are hideous.

To keep caller experiences consistent and to protect themselves from PSOs with bad judgement, dispatch agencies usually have lots of rules.  Not always, but usually.

Phone sex platforms

phonesexfunPlatforms like NiteFlirt and AdultPhonePal allow more independent-minded women to set up shop and work their own hours and set their own rates.  There is no screening process and no training provided, so callers can expect inconsistent experiences when calling different PSOs.  But there is a centralized phone system and billing set-up, so women do not have to obtain toll free numbers or process payments at all and guys can set up billing once and then use their funds for multiple calls with multiple providers.  PSOs can expect some organic traffic on most platforms but should also plan to blog or advertise or use social media to build an audience as well.  Rates on platforms vary wildly as women set their own prices.  The platform usually keeps 35% to 40% of that and the PSO gets 60% to 65%.

Phone sex platforms tend to have fewer rules than dispatch agencies, but they still have a list of forbidden topics.

Direct dial independent phone sex operators

Direct dial PSO’s are fully independent phone sex professionals.  They create their own businesses from scratch, obtaining their own phone lines, payment processors, marketing channels, etc. etc.  They can charge what they like and depending on their processing costs and marketing costs and other overhead, they likely keep 70% to 80% of what the caller spends on a call.  The advantage for PSOs of going this route is total autonomy and fewer rules and a closer relationship with your callers.  The advantage for callers would be no annoying interruptions while the platform reauthorizes your card, no restrictions other than respecting the limits set by your PSO, and knowing that you are supporting a true entrepreneur.  Plus, there is always a slight risk with platforms and dispatch companies that something will happen and your operator may leave that setting.  There are generally contracts that would prevent her from contacting you (even to say goodbye!) if she leaves.  With direct dial calling, the relationship is more personal and there is no company between you.

The business in general

spoilyourgoddessA good phone sex operator can hope to be on the phone about 30% to 40% of the time she is logged in for calls.  A great operator can hope 50% to 60% of her logged in time spent on calls.  So whatever she earns per hour while on a call needs to be stretched out to cover the hours when she is waiting for a call.  And those hours are not spent eating bon bons and watching tv!  Today, virtually all PSOs must spend time blogging, tweeting, texting, creating advertising, keeping up her bookkeeping, studying her fetish niches, and emailing (and emailing and emailing).  This career path is a ton of work!!  Long hours spent with callers that are often narcissistic and sometimes really emotionally damaged.  Some callers are abusive.  Many confuse fantasy and reality.  And most have little regard for what their PSO is experiencing.  Then there are the wankers that want your time but will not call!  Ack!

To be a PSO today, you must be tough, smart, efficient and filthy!  Plus, everyone and their sister is trying phone sex because of this rotten economy, so you need to bring something special to the table.  All that being said, if you have what it takes, being a phone sex operator is a total fucking blast!  :)  lol  I love my “work”.

In conclusion

There is a cost of doing business for any industry and I never resent the percentage of my income that goes to a platform or processor.  Callers and PSOs alike should accept that these necessary costs provide many invaluable benefits like essential anonymity and easy ways for us to find each other and simple credit card processing.  I shared the above information to help you make educated choices about where to work and how to spend your phone bone dollars on fun filthy entertainment with fabulous talented women.  If you have any questions or concerns, please share them in the comments area below and I will reply promptly.

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FemDom phone sex Mistress extraordinaire,

Mistress June

PS:  I’m on NiteFlirt and AdultPhonePal, but I also recently went fully independent with my own toll free number and the ability to process credit card payments directly!  Wahoo!  :)  lol  I only offer my direct line to my best regular callers, though.  If you are one of my proven callers and you want info on my new direct line, please email me for more info.

PPS:  When you enjoy your call, tip your operator.  It means a lot to them.

If you are over 18, you may call me any time at 1 (888) 557-0355.