Love and Phone Sex, Monogamy, Cheating, and Devotion

Hi bois and gurls,

I am reviving this fun site as a place to share topics of interest to the phone sex community.  Hopefully articles here will interest both phone sex callers and phone sex operators.  I would still like to share articles here from other authors, too.  So if you have an interesting take on any phone sex topic, please consider sharing your perspective in an article of 500 – 700 words.

For today’s post, I intend to very briefly touch on three topics related to love and phone sex.  All views shared are my personal take on these things.  Different phone sex operators (PSO’s) may feel differently.  If you would like to see any one of these concepts more fleshed out in a future post, please let me know that in the comment area.

 

Loving phone sex calls

Phone sex and men in relationships:

 

Phone sex is a safe way to connect with another human being to share a fun fantasy.  It is healthier than looking at porn alone.  You cannot catch a disease.  You will not be arrested and on the evening news.  You are not exploiting a vulnerable woman as might be the case with prostitution.  You are helping to support the entrepreneurial life of your PSO.  You might learn something new.  And you might develop a caring bond with someone who can offer you a safe place to share your secrets.  But you are not cheating on your spouse or girlfriend.  Not in my eyes.

I am a FemDom specialist.  I am not in competition with the woman you love.  Callers come to me for very specific needs when their spouse or partner does not share their interests.  Expecting your partner to learn your kinks and become a FemDom Goddess for you when that is not her thing is like expecting your partner to learn how to clean your teeth and cut your hair because you would feel like you were cheating if you went to a dental hygienist or a hairstylist.  You see specialist all the time for all kinds of personal services and it is not cheating.  I am just like an accountant or a hairstylist or a therapist.  I am a professional who offers a specialized service.  We are never going to meet.  I have no interest in being your girlfriend.  You are not cheating with me.  You are just hiring a professional to take care of a specific need.  Perfectly safe.  Perfectly healthy.

 

Sharing a loving phone sex call

Phone sex connections between callers and operators:

 

I often develop close and caring connections with my phone sex callers.  Our connections are real and meaningful.  But they are also occurring within the confines of some pretty clear boundaries.  I have had callers tell me they love me and I am perfectly comfortable with that.  (Not all Mistresses feel the same, so you should always respect the comfort zone of your phone sex partner.)  I do not believe in Hallmark fairy tale Disney love, I am not that kind of romantic.  But I do believe in a Holy (non-religious) connection between all living things and I believe sometimes that connection shines brighter than others.  I may on occasion reply that I love my caller, too, if I feel certain he will not misinterpret my platonic (often nurturing) kind of love.

I am not possessive, so I have no problem with my callers also trying out other PSO’s.  Most often, my callers prefer to call only me, but they would not be in trouble if they explore their options and seek a little variety.

 

Phone sex is healthy.

Loving phone sex role play:

 

Some callers want to explore scenes where love is a factor.  All different kinds of love from controlling and possessive love to nurturing maternal love to cuckolding and alternative lifestyle kinds of love.  I always enjoy role play scenes where love is at play, but it is imperative before the scene that we agree on what is real and what is fantasy.  This cannot be assumed, it must be made clear.  I really enjoy playing with emotion when I know there is no confusion and no chance that your feelings would get hurt.  You are paying me for a fantasy experience and if you want to feel vulnerable and emotionally open, role play scenes involving love are a great way to explore your submissive side.  Don’t be afraid to talk to me about your desire for loving scenes.

 

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Finally, a note about safety…

 

If you ever feel like you might be getting TOO into our scenes or you might be losing touch with reality, please tell me that right away.  I am not a therapist and would never pretend to offer therapeutic guidance.  But I can be a supportive presence with very firm boundaries to offer you a sexual outlet while you seek the right mental health professional for your emotional healing.

 

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If you would like to explore these topics in depth, please give me a call!  I can be reached at 1-85-JOY-85-HOPE which is 1 (855) 698-5467.

I look forward to playing with you soon!

Mistress June

 

 

The economics of phone sex – how the business works

There is a myth that phone sex is easy money and that anyone can get rich doing it.

I’m writing this post to dispel rumors and give new phone sex operators (PSOs) a clearer picture of the industry and also to educate callers on their options.  To share what happens to each dollar spent on phone sex.  I genuinely love the phone sex industry and everything I share here is intended to deepen your enjoyment of my favorite pastime whether you are a caller or a PSO.

Phone sex is a fun business!  But it IS a business.  With expenses and financial concerns like any other business.

getyourkinkonI have wanted to write this blog for a long time, but I was spurred to do it now because a recent caller told me he imagined I make six figures and that I earn far more per hour than he does.  Ha!  lol  I am still laughing at that.

This industry can reward a woman well if she has certain gifts and abilities, but it is not likely to make a PSO rich.  Here are some of the details…

There are three main business models in this industry.  Many PSO’s work one model or another, some work combinations of these options.  All of these options have their benefits.

Dispatch phone sex agencies

Agencies advertise and develop loyal callers based on fetish niches or price points.  The better ones heavily screen applicants and offer their PSOs training and other support.  They have centralized billing and offer callers a more consistent experience when calling a range of PSOs.  They offer PSOs a more reliable stream of calls and income.  Dispatch agencies typically pay the PSO about 25% to 35% of what a customer pays per minute, sometimes more.

Bad dispatch companies provide little support for their PSOs, offer inconsistent experiences for their callers, and pay their operators as little as 10% of what the caller is spending on his call.  Do your research when choosing a dispatch company!  The good ones are great and the bad ones are hideous.

To keep caller experiences consistent and to protect themselves from PSOs with bad judgement, dispatch agencies usually have lots of rules.  Not always, but usually.

Phone sex platforms

phonesexfunPlatforms like NiteFlirt and AdultPhonePal allow more independent-minded women to set up shop and work their own hours and set their own rates.  There is no screening process and no training provided, so callers can expect inconsistent experiences when calling different PSOs.  But there is a centralized phone system and billing set-up, so women do not have to obtain toll free numbers or process payments at all and guys can set up billing once and then use their funds for multiple calls with multiple providers.  PSOs can expect some organic traffic on most platforms but should also plan to blog or advertise or use social media to build an audience as well.  Rates on platforms vary wildly as women set their own prices.  The platform usually keeps 35% to 40% of that and the PSO gets 60% to 65%.

Phone sex platforms tend to have fewer rules than dispatch agencies, but they still have a list of forbidden topics.

Direct dial independent phone sex operators

Direct dial PSO’s are fully independent phone sex professionals.  They create their own businesses from scratch, obtaining their own phone lines, payment processors, marketing channels, etc. etc.  They can charge what they like and depending on their processing costs and marketing costs and other overhead, they likely keep 70% to 80% of what the caller spends on a call.  The advantage for PSOs of going this route is total autonomy and fewer rules and a closer relationship with your callers.  The advantage for callers would be no annoying interruptions while the platform reauthorizes your card, no restrictions other than respecting the limits set by your PSO, and knowing that you are supporting a true entrepreneur.  Plus, there is always a slight risk with platforms and dispatch companies that something will happen and your operator may leave that setting.  There are generally contracts that would prevent her from contacting you (even to say goodbye!) if she leaves.  With direct dial calling, the relationship is more personal and there is no company between you.

The business in general

spoilyourgoddessA good phone sex operator can hope to be on the phone about 30% to 40% of the time she is logged in for calls.  A great operator can hope 50% to 60% of her logged in time spent on calls.  So whatever she earns per hour while on a call needs to be stretched out to cover the hours when she is waiting for a call.  And those hours are not spent eating bon bons and watching tv!  Today, virtually all PSOs must spend time blogging, tweeting, texting, creating advertising, keeping up her bookkeeping, studying her fetish niches, and emailing (and emailing and emailing).  This career path is a ton of work!!  Long hours spent with callers that are often narcissistic and sometimes really emotionally damaged.  Some callers are abusive.  Many confuse fantasy and reality.  And most have little regard for what their PSO is experiencing.  Then there are the wankers that want your time but will not call!  Ack!

To be a PSO today, you must be tough, smart, efficient and filthy!  Plus, everyone and their sister is trying phone sex because of this rotten economy, so you need to bring something special to the table.  All that being said, if you have what it takes, being a phone sex operator is a total fucking blast!  :)  lol  I love my “work”.

In conclusion

There is a cost of doing business for any industry and I never resent the percentage of my income that goes to a platform or processor.  Callers and PSOs alike should accept that these necessary costs provide many invaluable benefits like essential anonymity and easy ways for us to find each other and simple credit card processing.  I shared the above information to help you make educated choices about where to work and how to spend your phone bone dollars on fun filthy entertainment with fabulous talented women.  If you have any questions or concerns, please share them in the comments area below and I will reply promptly.

phonehotties

FemDom phone sex Mistress extraordinaire,

Mistress June

PS:  I’m on NiteFlirt and AdultPhonePal, but I also recently went fully independent with my own toll free number and the ability to process credit card payments directly!  Wahoo!  :)  lol  I only offer my direct line to my best regular callers, though.  If you are one of my proven callers and you want info on my new direct line, please email me for more info.

PPS:  When you enjoy your call, tip your operator.  It means a lot to them.

If you are over 18, you may call me any time at 1 (888) 557-0355.

Tipping your phone sex operators

Hi guys, Mistress June here.

I often get asked about phone sex protocol, so I thought I would occasionally post here about how phone sex works and what you should expect as a caller or an operator.  If you have questions or topics you want me to cover, just email me or post comments here and I will respond promptly.  I am going to start with something that comes up often both with callers and with other phone sex operators (PSOs) – tipping or tributing or gift giving.

Think about all that you get from your time with your favorite phone sex Goddess.

Think about all that you get from your time with your favorite phone sex Goddess.

Phone sex is a service industry

where PSOs address client needs

much like a waitress or hair stylist would,

and tipping is a standard part of this industry.

Some sites refer to tips as tributes.  Some FemDom PSO’s may also call tips things like “cum taxes” or “acts of devotion”.  The end result is the same, though.  If you receive great service from an outstanding PSO, you will want to tip her at least 10 – 20 % on the call.  Some callers who are especially grateful or want to make a big impression on their operator or want to serve her with an especially generous act of devotion tip more than 100 %!  Other callers tip just $5 or $10 each call, no matter how long the call lasts.  And still others never tip at all.  Hopefully, if you are among this last group, you will remember your favorite PSO’s on Christmas and their birthday’s with especially nice surprises!

Your business matters and good PSO’s will often thank you for your calls, but you should not confuse your call time with a tip or tribute.  I once had a caller say something like, “Well, I call my main Mistress five times a week for an hour each time!  I could never afford that if I had to tip her!”  Ack!  I explained to him how unsettling that way of thinking is with this anecdote….

Be good to your favorite phone sex operators.

Be good to your favorite phone sex operators.

Would you go to your favorite cafe five days a week and sit in the section where your favorite waitress works and then never tip her and think you are doing her a kindness by being there?  By sitting in her table all that time, you are making sure other customers – customers who might tip appropriately! – cannot sit there and you are assuring she will lose out on tips five days a week.  Don’t be so selfish.  Call her four days a week instead and then tip her for her great service.  She will feel appreciated, you will feel generous, and you will both always delight in your time together.

You might also want to ask your PSO how she prefers to receive her tributes.  Some prefer to get them via their calling platform – like NiteFlirt or Adult Phone Pal.  Others prefer to get tips as Amazon gift cards or as gifts from their wishlists.  Please note that if you send gifts, you should let your operator know!  Amazon does not tell us and some of us use a mail forwarding service for gifts, so we may not receive the gift for a little while.  It is good to let your PSO know so she can watch for your thoughtful surprise.

Thank you for caring enough to want to be a good caller and a positive part of your PSO’s experience!

If you have any questions or comments, please share them below.

Talk to you soon!

Mistress June

If you are over 18, you may call me any time at 1 (888) 557-0355.

 

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