Love and Phone Sex, Monogamy, Cheating, and Devotion

Hi bois and gurls,

I am reviving this fun site as a place to share topics of interest to the phone sex community.  Hopefully articles here will interest both phone sex callers and phone sex operators.  I would still like to share articles here from other authors, too.  So if you have an interesting take on any phone sex topic, please consider sharing your perspective in an article of 500 – 700 words.

For today’s post, I intend to very briefly touch on three topics related to love and phone sex.  All views shared are my personal take on these things.  Different phone sex operators (PSO’s) may feel differently.  If you would like to see any one of these concepts more fleshed out in a future post, please let me know that in the comment area.

 

Loving phone sex calls

Phone sex and men in relationships:

 

Phone sex is a safe way to connect with another human being to share a fun fantasy.  It is healthier than looking at porn alone.  You cannot catch a disease.  You will not be arrested and on the evening news.  You are not exploiting a vulnerable woman as might be the case with prostitution.  You are helping to support the entrepreneurial life of your PSO.  You might learn something new.  And you might develop a caring bond with someone who can offer you a safe place to share your secrets.  But you are not cheating on your spouse or girlfriend.  Not in my eyes.

I am a FemDom specialist.  I am not in competition with the woman you love.  Callers come to me for very specific needs when their spouse or partner does not share their interests.  Expecting your partner to learn your kinks and become a FemDom Goddess for you when that is not her thing is like expecting your partner to learn how to clean your teeth and cut your hair because you would feel like you were cheating if you went to a dental hygienist or a hairstylist.  You see specialist all the time for all kinds of personal services and it is not cheating.  I am just like an accountant or a hairstylist or a therapist.  I am a professional who offers a specialized service.  We are never going to meet.  I have no interest in being your girlfriend.  You are not cheating with me.  You are just hiring a professional to take care of a specific need.  Perfectly safe.  Perfectly healthy.

 

Sharing a loving phone sex call

Phone sex connections between callers and operators:

 

I often develop close and caring connections with my phone sex callers.  Our connections are real and meaningful.  But they are also occurring within the confines of some pretty clear boundaries.  I have had callers tell me they love me and I am perfectly comfortable with that.  (Not all Mistresses feel the same, so you should always respect the comfort zone of your phone sex partner.)  I do not believe in Hallmark fairy tale Disney love, I am not that kind of romantic.  But I do believe in a Holy (non-religious) connection between all living things and I believe sometimes that connection shines brighter than others.  I may on occasion reply that I love my caller, too, if I feel certain he will not misinterpret my platonic (often nurturing) kind of love.

I am not possessive, so I have no problem with my callers also trying out other PSO’s.  Most often, my callers prefer to call only me, but they would not be in trouble if they explore their options and seek a little variety.

 

Phone sex is healthy.

Loving phone sex role play:

 

Some callers want to explore scenes where love is a factor.  All different kinds of love from controlling and possessive love to nurturing maternal love to cuckolding and alternative lifestyle kinds of love.  I always enjoy role play scenes where love is at play, but it is imperative before the scene that we agree on what is real and what is fantasy.  This cannot be assumed, it must be made clear.  I really enjoy playing with emotion when I know there is no confusion and no chance that your feelings would get hurt.  You are paying me for a fantasy experience and if you want to feel vulnerable and emotionally open, role play scenes involving love are a great way to explore your submissive side.  Don’t be afraid to talk to me about your desire for loving scenes.

 

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Finally, a note about safety…

 

If you ever feel like you might be getting TOO into our scenes or you might be losing touch with reality, please tell me that right away.  I am not a therapist and would never pretend to offer therapeutic guidance.  But I can be a supportive presence with very firm boundaries to offer you a sexual outlet while you seek the right mental health professional for your emotional healing.

 

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If you would like to explore these topics in depth, please give me a call!  I can be reached at 1-85-JOY-85-HOPE which is 1 (855) 698-5467.

I look forward to playing with you soon!

Mistress June

 

 

What is Financial Domination? Lady Andra explains FinDom

Introduction to Financial Domination

or Why Giving Me Your Money Makes You Hard

by LadyAndra

LadyAndra from NiteFlirt writes about FinDom or Financial Domination

The exquisite LadyAndra

Financial domination what is it? If you’re reading this article I’m sure you’ve asked yourself that question. You’ve seen things and you’re curious, you want to know more. I’m going to answer some of your questions. Financial domination can be a complex fetish tied to many other desires, so my explanations will not be exhaustive but should whet your appetite to explore financial domination on your own. What follows is of course my not-at-all-humble opinion on the subject, and is based on my own experiences with financial submissives.

Financial dominationAt first glimpse it would seem financial domination is about money, but money as in all cases is simply a means to an end. Financial domination is about power and control. In our society despite the progress that has been made, one of the last arenas of male power is money. This not to say women can’t make money and lots of it. However the fact remains that men are still paid more than women. I am not going to launch into a long diatribe about the causes of wage disparity between the genders, because I would hope we all have a basic grasp of those issues.

When a man subjugates himself to a woman financially

it is an exchange of power that he can’t deny to himself once the high has worn off.

A man can hide the trappings of most fetishes,

but it’s not so easy to explain missing funds, downgrades in lifestyle etc.

Financial domination phone sexFinancial domination is a fetish with very real consequences beyond the BDSM world. For example if a submissive gives up going out to lunch, a small sacrifice, this causes ripples is his non-kinky life. He possibly has to explain to his significant other his sudden interest in brown bagging it. He may have to skip having lunch with colleagues who are going out. What will he say? He’s dieting? Eating healthy? Trying to save money? Now that last excuse has the potential to diminish him in the eyes of his co-workers. It may appear he is not doing well. Yet he can’t reveal the truth that he is sacrificing for his Mistress, that she will not allow him the privilege of dining out. No, he can’t say any of those things but he will know them. Everyone can see his sacrifice, but only the two of you understand it. He will sit at his desk he will eat alone and he will be under control.

Every tribute, and every gift a financial slave gives to his Mistress is something he can not have for himself, yet he will be happy. The financial slave will find his enjoyment in making the life of the financial domme ever more luxurious. She doesn’t need his money she has plenty of her own but he will add to her life allowing her to be ever wealthier, ever more extravagant. It becomes not merely his duty, but his purpose. His service, the sacrifice of his own luxury and comfort so that the financial domme can have more, and more. The financial slave may be rewarded for his sacrifice with attention, with humiliation, with indulgence, perhaps a glimpse of her foot, or he may get nothing. Well nothing but the satisfaction of having submitted and served well.

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The beautiful and brilliant LadyAndra can be found on NiteFlirt by clicking here.  Post any questions or comments for her below.  Thank you, LadyAndra for sharing this fabulous intro to FinDom!

(If you would like to write about your favorite fetish or phone sex experience, please contact Mistress June through EliteDomme.com.  I would love to publish you.)

My phone sex angle on current events – the Boston bombing

This column is a companion piece to the article that posted to the NiteFlirt blog this morning. My response to the bombing in Boston.

Wild women know how to let looseSo I just told you this would not be a vanity site and now I am writing a column about my ideas and feelings, but that will not be the norm here! :) I promise. This week is special. I wrote about the bombings for the NiteFlirt blog and I wanted to continue that line of inquiry here. What do you think drives people to that level of madness? And do you see any way for us to as a culture to make it less likely?

I feel like extremists often seem to be ascetics. Am I right about that? If you know about these things, please comment below. But I wonder about people living without pleasure and denying their needs and appetites, what it does to them. I also feel like extremists often seem to come from environments that stress a kind of mythical male power. Muslim cultures, Central America, certain African nations – places where men are supposed to be obeyed without question. Doesn’t that seem like a dangerous combination? Men with limitless power denying their sexuality?

Strong sensible women keep the peacePlease know that I am NOT making light of what happened.

I am devastated by each senseless act of destruction that comes along and I want the violence to stop and I feel for the victims. With that said…

I think the world will be a better place when there are more female supremacists, when men are better able to admit their softer instincts and their fallibility, and when all people allow themselves pleasure and quit acting like Puritanical ninnies. We need more strong smart women, powerful women, wild women and the men who love them.

We all fell so much stress these days. We NEED releases. (Unless we are chronic masturbators or weak perverts and then there are different rules.) Take a break from all of the miserable news. Turn off your TV and your computer for an hour and indulge in a hot phone sex call. Recharge so you can head out in this wild world and fight the good fight against extremists and zealots.

My sincerest sympathies to folks in Boston.

Sending light and love,

Mistress June

from EliteDomme.com

 

If you are over 18, you may call me any time at 1 (888) 557-0355.